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It is sometimes said that money is happiness. But money and happiness walk side by side , as we can’t buy happiness and emotions by money as well as happiness and emotions cannot bring money but they are equally important and rely on each other. I thought to write this article a long ago but I was not ready but I think this is the right moment. I have been asked by many people the same question "Money or happiness , which is most important for you"? In my opinion both are equally important as air and water as we can't breath without air nor fulfil our thirst without water . There is a difference between something we wish to do and things we require to fulfil our wish . Our will to do and people around us are main purpose where as money is the prime ingredients which fulfil our requirements for happiness.

 Let me give you some real life examples. Last month my mother in law was admitted in hospital due to hyper sugar and lack of insulin. The money helped us to meet all the medical treatment expenses and her will to get well soon.

 My nephew met a road accident and the position near his right ankle was fractured. He needed to implant a stainless steel for rigid internal fixation on the fractured position which Costs him some lakhs of money for the surgery and now he can walk properly. So here money becomes a vital part for his treatments too. If there are any festivals we need money to buy new clothes , decorative materials and puja items as well as we need the presence of people complete the celebration of the festival.

 But 

 As I told the presence of people along with the ability to spend the money is required. Let it be the festival of Diwali for a blind man , he may have plenty of everything but he cannot enjoy the festival lights as he feel no difference between day and night or dark and light . An old man who has enough savings which he has earned during his young service life and now he can buy everything he wishes but he can't go out enjoy the fullest like we do . 

 So money , our wish and will to do and people around us are equally important for the bunch of our happiness. Time , money and energy will never be parallel with us, everyone among us will face few stage of life when we will have plenty of time , a pinch of less than plenty of energy but lack of money is our childhood .

 Then there is a stage which is full of energy , enough money and lack of time because at this stage we do have full of responsibilities where we cannot escape from our responsibilities and enjoy the way we want .then at last there is a stage when we have enough time and plenty of money but what we lack is energy because at this stage we have grown old and our body doesn't support our will and wish to do the things we did at our adulthood .

 Of course money is the most important thing and in today's world It is required at every gesture of life, but if we run only behind money then we might forget to live the actual life that we have today. Lets make a plan and sort out everything accordingly , make a purpose and it is better to enjoy the present moment of life with what we have because we cannot have everything all at once.
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It is beautiful to grow up with all the things happening around us but we don't realize that we are growing up and we hope that things will be smooth as always and when we realized that we are grown up things has changed a lot beyond our expectations. 

 Last month was full of festival , Bengali's biggest festival “Durga Pujo”, Navaratri , Lakshmi Puja etc and every streets were glowing with color of joys and happy faces at the every corner. This year my "Pujo" was not what I had dreamed of just like every year . On the day of Mahalaya one of my close relatives passed away, it was a sudden unexpected death as he was just 50 years old without any chronic diseases and died of cardiac arrest. The entire family could not bear such loss and some of them are still in grief. On the day of Panchami my mother in law was admitted in hospital for sudden increase of blood sugar level and Hyperthyroidism. It was only me and my wife were doing all the necessities to restore her health soon as possible . Buying of higher spectrum medicines from far away, keeping an eye on her as well as looking around the hospitals for all the available services in hospital premises if she needs any helping hand . We were doing all the things with . 

It is so weird to grow up but it is much more weird that not to realize that we have grown up and growing up doesn't mean only age , it's something that called responsibilities and duties. At the moment I have finally realized that I have grown up, things has changed a lot with so much of responsibilities, taking care of my elder ones , looking out at my family , fulfilling their needs in every way I can but I have never realized it before. As I am growing up it seems like I am prepared for it but actually it changes in a jiffy. The moment I realized that I grew up , I felt myself alone in the crowd, I missed my elder's support and I realized that all I have to do it myself as the elders need my support including my parents and everyone in my family who are having some faith in me that I will sort it out of everything .

 Believe me all my lives I have looked forward for the moment when I would be on my own when I have to make my own decisions, should I take a nap or not but when the moment has came, but actually it is getting difficult. Sometime it is fun with new responsibilities as like I have to do a lot of things but then I feel daunted. But I believe I have that courage and capabilities to fulfil the responsibilities, after all I have realized the I have grew up .Whatever decision I make , I am going to be prayerful about it and hopefully I will always make the best decision for my family , myself, friends and everybody.
kash phool, kash flower, kans grass
Kash Phool

Navratri or Durga Puja one of the greatest religious festival for Hindu religion and when we say it as Durga pujo for bengali community then we get goosebumps with full of excitements. In Bengali terms we spell it "Pujo Ascha". In west Bengal pujo ascha means there will be long holidays for schools , government offices , colleges for a long term of about 10 to 12 days. This is the most awaited festival for Bengali.


autumn clouds, white clouds on clear blue sky
soroter akash

 Pujo ascha means we have to buy new dresses for all of our loved ones , jewelry , shoes etc. It is one of the most expensive festival of Bengal that here the businessmen makes triple profits in just one month which they can't make in the whole year .The beauty of pujo starts one month before the pujo, the white clouds like cotton balls is floating on the deep blue sky we call it “Soroter Akash”. The Kans grass or “Kash Phool” in Bengali on every corner of roads, railway tracks, rice fields and ponds enhancing the beauty of this month by reminding happily that the festive season is just about to begin. The giant puja pandals has started erecting the pandals around the city and the city and young people from our colony has started collecting puja donation from every houses and every vehicles passing by the local roads, these young people are also promoting the theme of the puja pandals so that many people visit to see the idols Goddess durga and most importantly the theme of pandal so that they can fetch a most beautiful/creative pandal reward trophy. Pujo asche means people who will get long holidays are planning to make a short trip around the country and abroad, and people who are staying abroad and out of town are reserving their tickets to get back and stay at home in those four important beautiful days.

 Pujo asche means full of shopping list for the entire family .This weekend we went for street shopping around Chinsura and Esplanade. The malls, street shops and footh paths on weekends are overcrowded in this season and the chaos from everywhere and the only few conversations of people were echoing in my ears are “dada oita din”, “dada oita koto dam”, “dada alada colour nei?”, “dada holud colour dakhan”, “na thik pochondo hocche na”. Well, at every corner there is a new model of dress , the lights sparkling from the jewellery shops are attracting the girls more. From sharees to shoes, watches, smartphones, jeweller, or any item, there is an offer banner with a tagline “Pujo Offer” for everyone and the malls are using lucky coupon schemes to attract more customer. But sadly we saw a lots of people who came up from far away who could not afford any new dress for their children, it was an corn seller, I asked him dada, kena kata hoye gache? He replied me “No Sir, even I could not afford to gift new dresses to my child on this year” . After all this I asked myself “Money or life which is the most important things?” and I think, both are parallely important.

Puja Street shopping



 Pujo asche means we have to look good in every way that is possible, the best looking dress to stay attractive and unique in the crowd, extra glow on skin as people are busy pampering their skin. People are also maintaining weight to look good on what they wear, I have gained a massive weight in the last few months and I weight around 85 kg but sorry I can not control this because I am a foodie.

 Well Mahalaya is just a week away and the beauty is to wake up at 4.00 AM early morning and listening to the “Mahisashur Mardini” on All India Radio, its great popularity remains undiminished even today 86 years later. On morning witnessing the chokkhu daan on the idol Goddess Durga is one of the most beautiful things on the day of Mahalaya.

 Festivals are the important part of our life, as Durga Puja is here and Diwali is just knocking the door and to intensify the happiness there will be gifts, foods, dress etc, but it is the sense of belongings that connect us with each other during festivals. Festivals are the reasons to bring family and friends together.and celebrate the very spirit of mankind. Its the festival so sort out some time and spend with family, friends and the people you love.Believe me, festivals are the one of the opportunities to bring people close. Wish you all happy Durga Puja/Navaratri.
weekend at puri, puri beach
Weekend at Puri

After a long week of crammed schedule which was full of chaos, office burden , business pressure and other undesired work all of us want a weekend which should be free from all the chaos , rejuvenate ourselves by spending quality times with ourselves and loved ones and by doing all the things that we love to do in our spare moments . But let me practical, spending the weekend depends from person to another person we have different priorities and we set our agenda according to that. Let it be a service personnel who would love to spend the weekend with family and setting agenda for the upcoming week. A businessman who runs a stores would not like to take weekends from the business as weekend markets are more profitable than other week days , law enforcement personnel like us doesn't have a weekend , we take days off when it's necessary plan according to it, and for a student weekend means learning something new and roam out with friends. As I told everyone has different priorities but for me the weekend means spending time with myself and family and doing all those things that make me happy, as I believe that "what I have is this moment and today" .

How do I spend my weekends :

Enough sleep 
As on other week days I usually wake up at 5 O clock which doesn't fulfil my sleeps then two and half hours of journey to reach office and again the same when back to home and it really soak out all my energy but on weekends and other holidays I sleep two hours more and it really makes me feel refreshed and energetic and on weekend let my body completely relaxed without any workout. 

Long ride

 I am not a pro-biker nor I have a cruise motor-bike but I love to ride . On weekends Me and my wife usually stuff everything that we need and leaves for the ride without any plan . We make plans on road and makes an unplanned trip within 150 km usually and explore to an unknown place , we both loved to visit forgotten monuments, sculptures and unusual place like British graveyards, temples, banks of Ganga and many more. I don't know such kind of habits are good or not but it makes us feel better and free.

Spend time with family
 Family is all I have and I feel myself the happiest person on the earth alive because of them and how they make me feel special, and it's my responsibility to sort out as much time as possible and spend time with them. I cook for them whenever I get time , family outings and unusual gossips together really help me to bond with them much better . Their eyes seeks for me in their needs , and to share their happiness and sorrows. A Healthy family doesn't only mean to stay everyone fit but it also includes a perfect bond with everyone in such a way that when they will need someone to share what they feel they will not need any other people from outside and you will become their first priority. 

Disconnecting from social media.
 Social media is a boon as well as an important part in our daily life to stay connected with the world but just like other important things we do in our life it should be a habit and it should not be an addiction, and when its an addiction it is harmful for our health, condition of our mood. I usually stay away from the social media on the weekend , no Facebook and twitter and nominal phone calls only. Believe it or not but by doing this it helps me to connect with the real world , myself and family . It's a kind of distraction that I don't want on my weekends , all I want to do the things I love and spend quality time without any distractions.

Learn new tactics 
I am always a good learner and I never leave an opportunity to learn new skills and practice the existing method. After all the chores and being a cyber security analyst I do bug bounty hunting which fetch me some good amount of money at the end of the month, because its fun and profitable too.

We all have our own way to spend our weekends but one should remember that it should be productive and refreshes our mind and body, as weekends are the best time to re-charge ourselves and it helps us to stay concentrated on the works we do on our next weekdays .