me , she and the sea

It was last weekend and there should be a gateway not to far but good enough for relaxing. We spend our last weekend on a very delight way because we were far away from burdens of work and household chores . But I am not complaining about it as I love my life and I love my job. Well so finally it was  an unplanned weekend to Digha , luckily we got tickets in the overnight and it was a comfortable journey from Howrah to Digha by train of about 3 hours. I did not book meal online while I was reserving tickets as I have seen before on different train that the meal was not that good and hygienic but in that train I saw the food was really hygienic and I ordered meal for both of us it was really yummy , consists of fried rice , chilly chicken , pickle and curd. The food was less spicy and oily and hats off to irctc for this great improvement
We reached Digha by 3 PM and because of unplanned trip we did not booked any hotel before we have to book hotel on the spot , so we went to old Digha as It is generally less crowded than new Digha. On the first stop at Hotel Sea hawk we luckily got a sea facing room and all the other rooms were pre-booked by the guests. The hotel is big enough with a great reputation among the guests , and I am really impressed by the professional behavior of the staffs. All the upper floor rooms were already booked so we were allocated on ground floor . The room was very beautiful , well maintained and the bathroom was clean and hygienic. As I entered the room I went to the balcony that was the best part of the room and the view was really wonderful.

 We took a sort of nap when we woke up it was a beautiful sun kissed evening.   So we thought to take a walk on the beach barefooted. One of the decent part of the hotel is it has a gate at the back and we have to pass through a beautiful garden and temple to reach the gate and it lead to the beach of old Digha. The beach was really quiet and less crowded. Only few people we busy with fishing and two or four couples were there at that time, wow really we spent some quality of time by holding our together along the sea shore . We stand at the edge of the land and from where the waterways of sea begins. We walked along the sea shore about two kilometers until it became dark , but we did not went much ahead because first it's an unknown place for us and second we had to go back the equal distance we have came up. By the time we came back near the hotel we saw all the chairs and wall were full of people . Old Digha is a place where you might find few people during the day time and by the evening it becomes prime attraction for the tourists. Because during day most of the people goes to New Digha beach,Udaypur or many other beaches nearby because these places are suitable to have fun with water but there is no proper place to seat and enjoy the sea breeze at the evening. In such case Old Digha is well decorated where people can seat and enjoy their evening . 

Well in evening at Old Digha you might find people selling fresh fishes and crabs on rickshaw you can choose any fish or crabs they will make you fish fry , fish pakoda and other dishes on the spot . We tasted big prawn and crab ,it was really delicious and the price was affordable too. By the time it was 8:30 PM and we were so tired and went back to hotel and decided to complete the next part on the next day . We were so tired that we could not go to the restaurant which was situated the ground floor so we ordered the food at our room . It was plain rice and fish kaliya but believe me the quality of the food was so good as I did not expected that much from hotel's in-house restaurant.
a view from hotel
Next day we planned to visit Digha science city , Amarabati park and Udaypur beach . First we went to the park the entry fees was just Rs.5 only per head .  The park was well decorated with greenery and flowers. But the main attraction was the ropeway as it gives the view of entire park from the top hanging in the air . It was my first experience on ropeway and it was great , the tickets was of rupees 60 per head. Well the park is well decorated with different breed of colorful  flowers , rabbits and different birds like kingfishers, white pigeon etc, just like a mini zoo . If you are with family and want to kill some time there then this is the place with ropeway , boat ride , well decorated gardens, a small bridge over the lake etc , children will love it the most . 

Digha science city

lost in our thoughts

Market at Old Digha

Then we headed towards the Digha science city a mini science city where many scientific phenomenons has been beautifully portrayed .  This place is specially created for children, mass visit from schools are often seen here. Models of 3D images, epic center of tornado, bio science etc are well described here. I heard that they have separate theater for 3D shows but we were in hurry so we could not explore that part of the science city. 

Then we headed towards Udaypur beach its about one and half kilometers from science city, we took a motor van it costs us Rupees 30 per head. It is situated at the West Bengal-Orissa border the entrance of the beach falls in Orissa where as the left part of the beach falls in West Bengal. The main attraction of this beach is bike ride and water sports. We took a bike it was at an affordable rate. What can be better than an exciting bike ride along the beach, it was an awful experience for me. But we humans have really made this world a worse place to live in, the entire beach is pathetically littered with alcohol bottles and plastic plates, people seated around are literally heavily drunk and one will feel unsafe. In my opinion Udaypur beach is not safe if you are with family, else the experience was great . Next day we packed our luggage and headed back to home. It was an amazing weekend for us , far from chaos , burden of work, crimes and sort of tensions.

beach near old Digha
Mistakes, Mistakes quotes

On last evening while I was going back to home from office on the daily scheduled train , I met an old friend from college days, we are from the same town. I did not recognise him at first until he approached me first, as he has changed his appearance like full beard and extra long hairs. I asked him what happened to him as he looks extremely odd and upset, but he did not reply . After getting off the train we had a cup of coffee together and discussed a few things back from the college days and at the end he asked me a damn question that I could not reply to him at that moment "can all mistakes be corrected?" 

I was so dumbstruck for that moment , I did not ask him why he is asking such question or what happened as I could see him crying from inside and understood that there is something really bad going along with him. I could not give him any reply at that moment, so I thought to write  a post about it.

Well, it depends on the potentials of the mistakes but more than that the more important thing is the cost of the mistakes. If you have broken someone's heart it may be because of misunderstandings, shoddy deeds or else you can win over their heart with love , mutual understanding, sacrifice and respect etc. If you have failed in your semester you can retake your exams after six months or one year it means it will cost you a year. If you have failed to achieve your dreams you have to work hard severely on that particular domain it you cost you time.

If you have killed someone in life you can correct your deed by spending 7 years or 10 years in jail means it will cost you some years if you have killed someone but that actually doesn't rectify your did as you won't bring back a precious life.  There are mistakes like breaking a heart, career, education , social behaviour, family relationships etc which can be rectified but it will take lots of moments but there are few mistakes like taking someone's life , missing a once in a lifetime chance , etc which can not be rectify. 
Well,  nothing is perfect in this world, you would not get things as per your expectations. Time changes along with changes in people you love,  people you trust , their behavior, what you wanted to be and what you are now. Do you know what are the most important things we need to have and need to do in our life? expect less from people whether it's your closest person or someone else because one you start to expect from someone it increases with day by day and no one can fulfil it as per you have expected and you are disappointed,  the more you expect the more you feel disheartened and finally it leads to misunderstandings and hatred moments. 

Well all I know that we humans keep doing mistakes and we need to learn from our mistakes that our future should not lay down beneath the heap of our mistakes. Our life is a race and we have to stay alive in this race for ourselves not for others. Everyday there we have a new challenge It matters to keep challenging ourselves each and everyday so that at the end we would have enough strength to push ourselves again and again. 


At the end ‘Time heals everything’ . 

Are we what we pretend to be

Putting a mask or pretending to be someone/something is not a seldom case but this might be a serious problem for all of us to wear a mask before our actual face. Oh sorry! I cannot spell this as a problem but it has become a virtual part of our real life isn’t it?  This is just like the lies, if you live on lies then to hide one lies you have to throw up more lies and you will feel you are entirely going away from the truth. 

Do you know why do we actually pretend? It is believe or not but because to fit ourselves with the social norms. We adapt this practice in fear of social insecurities, we fear that we will not balance with the norms of social that how people want you to see among the other people. Yes, there are various sub-reasons that why do we pretend , if it is in a relationship then we fake for someone’s happiness or to meet their expectation , if it's a business then it is simply for business gain, if it's for personal benefits then it's completely unethical and blah! . of course pretending is very necessary when it comes for decision making for something big but does it really need in our daily life activities ? Cannot we lead a happy and peaceful life without faking ourselves?

What happens when you stop pretending?

  • People will expect from you only what is real in you not much nor less than that. 
  • You will be dealing with the real life incidents and you will be habitual to tackle them.
  • More self confidence.
  • You are more mature than before
  • You will be out of the fantasy world that might be a sad part for some time.
  • No more faking smile and most important fact is YOU WILL START BEING TRUE.

The more you try to pretend to be okay the more you will feel you are going away from reality of life and living in fake world. Believe me if something is making you down then try to observe it with the real in you and for sure you will find a solution for that. Things come to your life as an opportunity or as a lesson and if you learn how to handle this situation then it will never come back to your life as a lesson. Never let any situation or person turn you into a fake person , as by pretending you will detour the situation only for that moment but you will not like it at all later part of your life.  

Walking along the sea shores refresh the soul 

We are not but our age is beautiful 

street photography, street thoughts
I have left collage 3 years ago and I realized that we learn more from the streets in real life scenario than any lessons from the classroom. We should be more practical to our life than conceptual approach.

Fallen leaves
What makes us different makes us beautiful