my birthday thoughts

Though my birthday was two days ago I am still wondering, how in earth I am 28 years old? Time flies away so quickly and did not realized that I have grown up this much. I am one year more older by turning over a page of my life. This year I did not celebrate because of pandemic period and I did not want any gathering in my house.

 Well my journey of last 28 years was really great , specially this phase of life was involved with my childhood, teenage, school and college life, love, emotions, ambitions , confusions and so on. Upto this part life was great and I was happy doing nothing but everything, parents care, falling in love, intend of learning , where everything seems like nothing but a big game. I feel myself as the happiest person alive as I have everything I need, a house to stay, mom and dad , job to survive, and the girl I love as my wife, what else I need to be happy?

By turning a page of another year of my life I felt like I have entered into the real world where I have to face challenges at every corner but before moving ahead I would like to share some of the facts that I have experienced and realized in the past few years before its too late for you.

Family is Important

Family is our world which unite us, support and bind us together. It is the cozy nest where we all share our moments of joy and sorrow together. It is the family who cultivates good habits, good citizens and good value of life.  Spend time with your family as much you can, what you are experiencing at that point in time, or what your are feeling, they will always be there for you. There is no judgment, no questions, only pure acceptance and love.

Learn to celebrate every big and little achievement

Life is made up of small and little things, start to celebrate on your every little achievements because one day these little things will come up and make a grand achievement for your life. I don’t mean to through a grand bash what I mean celebrate by doing things you love , have a beer, make a day out and reward yourself , believe me it is one of the greatest way to keep motivated yourself .

Take care of yours body and health

One of the greatest gift we have is ourselves and our body, so it is very necessary to take care of our health.  Do a little workout and put out some sweat, eat healthy avoid junks especially if you are 25+ because food brings a great impact on our health. Consult a doctor if any specious symptoms occurs before it turning into health threat. Take care of your body as precious gift and don’t let it be a burden on yourself and your family, because a lots of people relay on you.

Fall in Love

Well there is no proper reason to fall in love but loving makes you a better person. Its makes the world go round and also strength to those. If you don’t have a reason to live then love someone who cares for you, whose eyes always seeks for your presence then you will sure get a reason to live again. I don’t have much words to explain this paragraph but yes do fall in love, it is mixture of love, pain, joy, sorrows, excitements and willing to do , yes it does bring good changes in life if everything is taken positively .

Do what you love

See this is a terrible advice but I have followed my heart and I am happy, 'do what you love' or 'love what you do' is not either the easy things, everything would be difficult, later most of the times things may seem easy at the beginning. Don't take your decision in haste, have little patience and then plunge into what you actually want to do. Doing this, you'd at least learn for yourself that for the first time in life, you have got no one to blame, but value your work because you have invested your time, concentration and energy to do and also you have followed your heart.

Appreciate little things in life

Like I told before life is made up of many little things and every small things matters a lot in our life, like calling your mom and wife after reaching office, chit chat with loved ones during lunch break, a call from a friend who is drunk at midnight and so on.
I realized this at my last office when I used to wish the lift man who was aged more than my dad , good morning , good evening, good night and had lunch? Just four words daily. Whenever I used to go in front of him, he used to smile out big and at last I asked him why you smile so happily whenever you see me? He replied: “Nobody gives me such respect the way you do”, I was wondering just few words daily can really make a person happy?

boy at sea, life knocks down, blue sky sea

Life is unpredictable circle and it goes on which consists good and worse time, happiness, grief and some sort of disappointments. When we goes through disappointments and tough time then many question arises in our mind even we starts questioning ourselves. I was going through the same question and thought to pen down my view on How to deal with it.

When life knocks us down the easiest things we do is blame ourselves, someone or the situation we are in, by blaming each other or the situation we may get provisional mental satisfaction, but that is we are not dealing with we just moving it away with some excuses.

Nothing is permanent

I always believe that nothing last forever, “it may mean so and so deep”. Everything in our life is temporary, our life, emotions, pain, wealth, relation, health etc.  If our life is not permanent then how in earth the things attached with our life will be always with us? Like the darkest night has the brightest day, similarly pain ends and pleasure returns and so on. We should not get attached to something the make us down, we need to flow with it.

Expect Less from Others

I don’t know I am putting down it wrong or right but I strongly believe that most of the biggest disappointments in our lives are because of misplaced expectation. In tough time we often expect from others for their support and it is not right to say that don’t expect anything but expect only which is out of your reach and only from those who are ready to fulfill it because there are many in the world who will give you expectation but there are much more ready to break them. More than that expectation reveals our weakness and makes us weak and it hurt us at the end.

Spend time with yourself

Play your favorite music, cook the dish you like or go out on a long solo walk , I mean do whatever you loves and release your stress, it will help you to find yourself , what is your problem, what do you want to achieve ?

Sorting out the problem

Every problem in life is unique and it has different solution, if you are going through circumstances of the family which may be main reason behind miscommunication, avoiding, arguing, disagreements etc. Communicate with your family, this is the best option to sort out all the family problems, family is the best team you will ever have.  If something else that knocking you down then set them the priorities and start working on them.

Turn the negative talks into encouragements

People talk when you are born and they will also talk when you will die so its not any new, they need your faults for their gossips, oh yes did I say faults? Yes think they are not talking about you , but they are helping to find your faults, use them to understand and strengthen your weakness.

Rebuild Yourself

Think it differently, you win of lose you will still breath the same way that you should and that doesn’t make any difference. Look around yourself the people who has more circumstances you will realize your problem is nothing in comparison of them, learn from your mistakes because at what stage you are now is because past deeds. Walk step by step according to your priorities because your present will write your tomorrow and take every day as a new beginning.

Remember everyone in this world has their own problem, life will never stop mocking you down and without problem life is nothing because where there is a problem there is hope and when there is a hope, there is a meaning of life. 

My The year is almost at the edge and a decade is also going to end and a new era is going to begin in the next few days, so it is the ideal time to reflect back into good and bag phases of life and rejoice the little things that was blissful moments in this year and this will also help me to sort out the things and prepare for the upcoming year mentally , physically and economically. The main reason I write this year in review as it means to :

  •  Appreciate all the little moments Both good and bad part of 2019
  •  A transparent view of the days ahead in 2020

 Well we all are bound by time and as 2019 is going to end I found myself checking out how much my life has changed in last 12 months. I remember I received 2019 when I was on night shift at the office in Kolkata, and on the first early morning of 2019 I was so freaking happy and took two days of day-off to celebrate the new Year's Eve with family. When I went back home, all I wanted to have fun and stick to the resolutions I have made. I was on it according to the rules but I was skidding out of it gradually due to various reasons one after another, but it was a great year for me and somewhere I learnt many epic things about life and how does it goes on. Here is a recap with what I got upto this year :

  •  January
A moment from Office gathering during January 2019

 As I mentioned I received 2019 at office, it was a great beginning of a new year as from the first day of 2019 dad has begin the construction of our new home and by the end of December it would be almost completed . It was an exciting month as I spent most of the working days by wandering around the city and I took multiple day off to attend family picnic and spend some quality time with friends and this is the only month in when I tired to stay away from work most of the time.

  •  February
A moment at Puri beach during February 2019

 This month was packed with fun , we attended several marriage occasions of my relatives.I spent my winter holidays at beach and yes I saw the sea for the first time ever. I also made some great friends from the other states whom I meet at the same hotel I was staying . It was also fun attending several training several cyber security training season at office where I got to learn a lot of unknown things to me. The end of this month was full of lawful because its when the heap of work begin to start .

  • March and April

 These was the most busiest months of this year , the schedule was jam packed with multiple security audits , remote support and many more. I have hardly taken two days of day off in these two months.At last the end of the April was better as I have received many letter of appreciation from the prestigious organization for the beautiful work done by our team.
Shot between march and april at Kolkata river bank

  • May
the birthday boy of the month

Of course this is the most awaited month of every year because I was born in this month twenty eight years ago and I celebrate each day of this month in every damn way. In this month I usually leave the office 30 minutes before and spend the rest of the time by doing little things to give privilege to myself and people who are directly connected to my life. Sometime I get out and enjoy the street food which I don't eat usually, buying some gifts for better half and myself. I remember in one evening I suddenly decided to gift myself a wrist watch which I was willing to buy from last three months and I spend the rest of the time with my family and do whatever it takes to bring a smile on their face.

  • June
During a ride

June was very happening as me and my wife made different trip on bike it was around 1500KM multiple rides within the state which brought us up to see many things that I could not have imagined that It could really exists in our state. Frequent bike rides are towards Tarkeswar, Howrah, Chandanagar, Tribeni, Kalna, Burdwan and Khana. Saw a lot of things like bunkers of British Soldiers during world war two, 100 Shiva temple near Burdwan,

  •  July and August
Far from Digha

We made an unplanned trip for a week to Digha as it is one of the nearest holiday destination from my hometown. Actually it was planned for road trip but due to my back pain we had to change the plan in overnight and left for the destination on the next morning by train. Because of unplanned trip we faced some difficulties to find hotel rooms as most of the hotels were pre occupied. But it was a memorable trip of this summer where we spent lots of memorable time together as it was off-season so we found it less crowded . A perfect gateway not too far nor too expensive but good enough for relaxation where there was no burden of work, no household chores and only me she and the she. 

  • September, October and November

 These three month had everything that is required to celebrate and live each and every day of a month like birthday of my wife , navaratri, ganesh chaturthi, Diwali but it was un-predicted to loss my uncle due to throat cancer and also one of my relative in-laws passed away just at the age of 45 due to sudden cardiac arrest , my mother in-law was admitted to hospital due to sudden increase in blood sugar and pressure we spent 5 days around the corridor of the hospital . I won’t forget these three months ever .

  •  December

It is the best time to witness the snowfall so I had planned a trip to north Bengal to experience snowfall but unfortunately I had to cancel it due to financial issues and postponed for the next winter. Perhaps it is the time to recall the moments and I had some of the best memories . What life has taught me this year are

  •  ‘Life is unpredictable’ .
  • Dream big but be happy with what we have in today because greed and needs will never be fulfilled.
  • Spend as much time as You can with your family , loved ones and those who care for you because you may don't have the next moment to do so.
  • Its ok to say sorry because it strengthen us .
  • Its ok to forgive and forget things because by doing so you don’t carry any grudge in your heart.
  • Give honors to yourself by spending time by doing little things you love to do, gifting yourself the things you like, thus you may realize who you are.
  •  Stand alone , you will realize your capabilities .

 Lets hope the new year and the new decade will be productive, may bring happiness and prosperity in our lives. Good by 2019 thanks for all the memories.

It is sometimes said that money is happiness. But money and happiness walk side by side , as we can’t buy happiness and emotions by money as well as happiness and emotions cannot bring money but they are equally important and rely on each other. I thought to write this article a long ago but I was not ready but I think this is the right moment. I have been asked by many people the same question "Money or happiness , which is most important for you"? In my opinion both are equally important as air and water as we can't breath without air nor fulfil our thirst without water . There is a difference between something we wish to do and things we require to fulfil our wish . Our will to do and people around us are main purpose where as money is the prime ingredients which fulfil our requirements for happiness.

 Let me give you some real life examples. Last month my mother in law was admitted in hospital due to hyper sugar and lack of insulin. The money helped us to meet all the medical treatment expenses and her will to get well soon.

 My nephew met a road accident and the position near his right ankle was fractured. He needed to implant a stainless steel for rigid internal fixation on the fractured position which Costs him some lakhs of money for the surgery and now he can walk properly. So here money becomes a vital part for his treatments too. If there are any festivals we need money to buy new clothes , decorative materials and puja items as well as we need the presence of people complete the celebration of the festival.


 As I told the presence of people along with the ability to spend the money is required. Let it be the festival of Diwali for a blind man , he may have plenty of everything but he cannot enjoy the festival lights as he feel no difference between day and night or dark and light . An old man who has enough savings which he has earned during his young service life and now he can buy everything he wishes but he can't go out enjoy the fullest like we do . 

 So money , our wish and will to do and people around us are equally important for the bunch of our happiness. Time , money and energy will never be parallel with us, everyone among us will face few stage of life when we will have plenty of time , a pinch of less than plenty of energy but lack of money is our childhood .

 Then there is a stage which is full of energy , enough money and lack of time because at this stage we do have full of responsibilities where we cannot escape from our responsibilities and enjoy the way we want .then at last there is a stage when we have enough time and plenty of money but what we lack is energy because at this stage we have grown old and our body doesn't support our will and wish to do the things we did at our adulthood .

 Of course money is the most important thing and in today's world It is required at every gesture of life, but if we run only behind money then we might forget to live the actual life that we have today. Lets make a plan and sort out everything accordingly , make a purpose and it is better to enjoy the present moment of life with what we have because we cannot have everything all at once.