my birthday thoughts

Though my birthday was two days ago I am still wondering, how in earth I am 28 years old? Time flies away so quickly and did not realized that I have grown up this much. I am one year more older by turning over a page of my life. This year I did not celebrate because of pandemic period and I did not want any gathering in my house.

 Well my journey of last 28 years was really great , specially this phase of life was involved with my childhood, teenage, school and college life, love, emotions, ambitions , confusions and so on. Upto this part life was great and I was happy doing nothing but everything, parents care, falling in love, intend of learning , where everything seems like nothing but a big game. I feel myself as the happiest person alive as I have everything I need, a house to stay, mom and dad , job to survive, and the girl I love as my wife, what else I need to be happy?

By turning a page of another year of my life I felt like I have entered into the real world where I have to face challenges at every corner but before moving ahead I would like to share some of the facts that I have experienced and realized in the past few years before its too late for you.

Family is Important

Family is our world which unite us, support and bind us together. It is the cozy nest where we all share our moments of joy and sorrow together. It is the family who cultivates good habits, good citizens and good value of life.  Spend time with your family as much you can, what you are experiencing at that point in time, or what your are feeling, they will always be there for you. There is no judgment, no questions, only pure acceptance and love.

Learn to celebrate every big and little achievement

Life is made up of small and little things, start to celebrate on your every little achievements because one day these little things will come up and make a grand achievement for your life. I don’t mean to through a grand bash what I mean celebrate by doing things you love , have a beer, make a day out and reward yourself , believe me it is one of the greatest way to keep motivated yourself .

Take care of yours body and health

One of the greatest gift we have is ourselves and our body, so it is very necessary to take care of our health.  Do a little workout and put out some sweat, eat healthy avoid junks especially if you are 25+ because food brings a great impact on our health. Consult a doctor if any specious symptoms occurs before it turning into health threat. Take care of your body as precious gift and don’t let it be a burden on yourself and your family, because a lots of people relay on you.

Fall in Love

Well there is no proper reason to fall in love but loving makes you a better person. Its makes the world go round and also strength to those. If you don’t have a reason to live then love someone who cares for you, whose eyes always seeks for your presence then you will sure get a reason to live again. I don’t have much words to explain this paragraph but yes do fall in love, it is mixture of love, pain, joy, sorrows, excitements and willing to do , yes it does bring good changes in life if everything is taken positively .

Do what you love

See this is a terrible advice but I have followed my heart and I am happy, 'do what you love' or 'love what you do' is not either the easy things, everything would be difficult, later most of the times things may seem easy at the beginning. Don't take your decision in haste, have little patience and then plunge into what you actually want to do. Doing this, you'd at least learn for yourself that for the first time in life, you have got no one to blame, but value your work because you have invested your time, concentration and energy to do and also you have followed your heart.

Appreciate little things in life

Like I told before life is made up of many little things and every small things matters a lot in our life, like calling your mom and wife after reaching office, chit chat with loved ones during lunch break, a call from a friend who is drunk at midnight and so on.
I realized this at my last office when I used to wish the lift man who was aged more than my dad , good morning , good evening, good night and had lunch? Just four words daily. Whenever I used to go in front of him, he used to smile out big and at last I asked him why you smile so happily whenever you see me? He replied: “Nobody gives me such respect the way you do”, I was wondering just few words daily can really make a person happy?

boy at sea, life knocks down, blue sky sea

Life is unpredictable circle and it goes on which consists good and worse time, happiness, grief and some sort of disappointments. When we goes through disappointments and tough time then many question arises in our mind even we starts questioning ourselves. I was going through the same question and thought to pen down my view on How to deal with it.

When life knocks us down the easiest things we do is blame ourselves, someone or the situation we are in, by blaming each other or the situation we may get provisional mental satisfaction, but that is we are not dealing with we just moving it away with some excuses.

Nothing is permanent

I always believe that nothing last forever, “it may mean so and so deep”. Everything in our life is temporary, our life, emotions, pain, wealth, relation, health etc.  If our life is not permanent then how in earth the things attached with our life will be always with us? Like the darkest night has the brightest day, similarly pain ends and pleasure returns and so on. We should not get attached to something the make us down, we need to flow with it.

Expect Less from Others

I don’t know I am putting down it wrong or right but I strongly believe that most of the biggest disappointments in our lives are because of misplaced expectation. In tough time we often expect from others for their support and it is not right to say that don’t expect anything but expect only which is out of your reach and only from those who are ready to fulfill it because there are many in the world who will give you expectation but there are much more ready to break them. More than that expectation reveals our weakness and makes us weak and it hurt us at the end.

Spend time with yourself

Play your favorite music, cook the dish you like or go out on a long solo walk , I mean do whatever you loves and release your stress, it will help you to find yourself , what is your problem, what do you want to achieve ?

Sorting out the problem

Every problem in life is unique and it has different solution, if you are going through circumstances of the family which may be main reason behind miscommunication, avoiding, arguing, disagreements etc. Communicate with your family, this is the best option to sort out all the family problems, family is the best team you will ever have.  If something else that knocking you down then set them the priorities and start working on them.

Turn the negative talks into encouragements

People talk when you are born and they will also talk when you will die so its not any new, they need your faults for their gossips, oh yes did I say faults? Yes think they are not talking about you , but they are helping to find your faults, use them to understand and strengthen your weakness.

Rebuild Yourself

Think it differently, you win of lose you will still breath the same way that you should and that doesn’t make any difference. Look around yourself the people who has more circumstances you will realize your problem is nothing in comparison of them, learn from your mistakes because at what stage you are now is because past deeds. Walk step by step according to your priorities because your present will write your tomorrow and take every day as a new beginning.

Remember everyone in this world has their own problem, life will never stop mocking you down and without problem life is nothing because where there is a problem there is hope and when there is a hope, there is a meaning of life.